To My Almost

We started rocky. It was one of the cliche things that happened to us. See, this isn’t the first time that we tried. The first time we failed yet when we found each other, we dared to try again, hoping that this moment will be our time. We were so optimistic that fate would favor us this time. We were happy. We were full of bliss. My day wouldn’t go by without you passing by my mind; yes, even when we were fighting, even when we weren’t in good mood.

It is so insane to miss someone whose memories are just abstract.
We weren’t the typical LDR. I am not sure if we had a relationship, even. It was the millennial thing- no label relationship. We were just talking- no, not talking per se, it was just an online banter. We talked over the phone for only more than an hour in our year-long ‘talking’ yet it meant the world to me. I was so invested in us. I was so excited for what the future holds for us even if there’s barely a present. It was very naive of me.

 

Everything was doing fine. I never think that everything will crumble. I told you before that if we get through this year, we will get through everything and I believed we could. I also believed that you believe we could. We agreed we will work for us, yet here we are halfway through 2017 and we’re acting like what happened for the past year is just an illusion for me. I frequently wonder what happened, how are you, does it pain you like it’s crushing me? Truthfully, I am not even mad at you. I understand you. I understand that what we had was difficult. I understand that having someone but not literally having someone is a losing battle. A battle against despair, longing and loneliness. I just hope you gave me much more credit that I would understand whatever reason you had. I’ve known you for a man who would stand by his words. I am devastated that I am wrong. Again. It saddens me that our second time was just like our first. A failure. And I know that I have my fair share of shortcomings. I was very clingy. I was bothered with all of the smallest things that I clearly shouldn’t have minded. And it consumed me. Uncertainty. Insecurity. I gladly embraced the connection I thought we had and held it so tight it might have smothered you. Or maybe this is the way of the universe to tell us that we are never meant for each other. This is my painful realization.

Goodbye and I wish you all the best.

Always,

VVD

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How To Avoid Heated Arguments

It’s You & Me VS. The Problem NOT You VS. Me

Since marami sa inyo, Readers natin, ang nagme-message sa PMG dahil sa kanilang mga heartbroken stories, tampuhan, and mga away na nagsimula lang sa “pagka-miss” and all… Tonight, ito iyong topic natin…

HOW TO AVOID HEATED ARGUMENTS

“Mag-aaway lang tayo, pero hindi tayo maghihiwalay.” -Sancho

I am not saying na kami ni Sancho, hindi kami nagdadaan sa mga problema, kasi kung hindi rin kami nagdaan sa mga tampuhan or mga break up stories, hindi kami magiging matibay at aabot sa 8 years hehe… pero iyang nga, ganiyan sinasabi niya kapag inaaway ko siya… “Mag-aaway lang tayo, pero hindi tayo maghihiwalay.” Ang sweet ‘no? Haha Pero hindi iyan sweet ‘pag beast mode ka. LOL

Yes, normal lang magkaroon ng tampuhan… Pero hindi ito ang dahilan para mag-away na kayo. Magtatampuhan, pero magpapatawaran din sa bandang huli. Ganito kasi ‘yan e, kapag meron kayong arguments, lagi niyong titignan iyong sarili niyo objectively, at kung ano ba talaga iyong issue. Hindi iyong, “Ikaw kasi e…” Hindi ganun.. Haha siyempre sa mga Ladies na medyo bagets bagets pa, mapupusok pa ang damdamin, huminahon lang tayo… Huwag na huwag magbibitiw ng masasakit na salita na hindi na natin kayang bawiin.

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Okay, nag-away kayo kasi hindi siya nakapag-reply agad o kaya umalis siya sa kalagitnaan ng heated argument kasi hindi mo alam, baka rin may duty siya di ba o tinawag ng Upper Class or ni Bossing… Minsan kasi nagsisimulang lumala ang isang tampuhan, magiging away, kapag tayong girls, uminit na ang ulo o kaya naman, napikon… hahaha lagi namang ganun di ba.. siyempre babae lang din tayo, marami tayong intensed or extreme emotions.. Hormonal? Lol

Una rin kasi sa lahat, napipikon tayo kasi nga hindi nila nami-meet iyong expectations natin… Arguments start with unmet expectations. Ito observation ko lang sa relasyon namin ha… In-assess ko kasi sarili ko e, madalas kasi akong mainis dati sa kaniya kapag seen lang message ko or kapag may sinasabi ako na parang hindi naman niya siniseryoso, lalung-lalo pa kapag may important discussion kami tapos bigla na lang siyang umaalis ng walang paalam..

Di ba, nakakainis naman talagay iyon? Hahaha… Natanong ko sa sarili ko, napakadaling intindihin naman sana na may trabaho iyong tao, kaya siya biglang umaalis or what… tapos ako bakit ako maiinis? Kasi nga, gaya ng sabi ko, unmet expectations. Ine-expect ko kasi sa kaniya, pakikinggan niya ako, that we’ll discuss things thoroughly ganiyan, o kaya magiging sobrang available siya sa akin, kasi nga, hello, girlfriend niya ako. Iyan iyong mga expectations ko, pero hindi niya nami-meet because of some reasons—reasons na valid naman di ba?

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Everytime na nag-away kayo, huwag kaagad maninisi. Alamin mo muna kung anong dahilan bakit in the first place, seen zone ka lang, o kaya hindi siya kaagad naka-reply or what.. Sabi nga nila, give the benefit of the doubt... Sige, para sa mga bata pa na hindi masyadong maiintindihan iyan (kasi ako rin noon inaamin ko hindi ko talaga iyan ma-gets haha), ano ba iyong benefit of the doubt? Ito iyong bibigyan mo iyong tao ng “space” para sa mga bagay na “nagawa” na niya na hindi dapat magawa kasi ina-accept mo iyong possibility na meron siyang valid explanation kung bakit niya iyon nagawa–don’t get me wrong when I say, “bagay na nagawa niya” ha, iba pa rin iyong mambabae siya or what ibang usapan na iyon… What I’m trying to say is, iyong mga bagay na nagawa niya na kinasama ng loob mo like seen zone ka, or hindi ka niya natawagan ng ilang araw…

Everytime na darating tayo sa point na mag-aaway, or siya iyong pinaka-nakakainis na tao at the moment, lagi mong tatanungin iyong sarili mo, bakit ka ba talaga nagagalit? Sabihin mo nga sa sarili mo ano na lang ba iyong dahilan na magalit ka na lang ng ganiyan? Kung may point ka naman kung bakit ka nainis sa kaniya, huminahon ka muna bago mo siya kausapin… YOU and HIM versus the problem, NOT you versus him. Ok?

Tignan mo lagi ang situation objectively, ano ba talaga ang nangyari? May reason ba siya na gawin iyon? Nag-sorry na ba siya? Nagpaliwanag na ba siya? Bago ang lahat, kinalma mo na ba iyong sarili mo? Ok kung ok na lahat ng mga iyan, this time, pag-usapan niyong dalawa na parang teammates, ano ba iyong pwede niyong gawin para hindi na iyon mangyari. Pwede bang, i-message ka muna niya bago siya umalis or before hand magsabi na siya na magiging busy ka para kapag naputol ang usapan niyo, alam mo na na busy na siya. Pag-usapan niyo ano ang dapat niyong gawin. Pareho kayong matatalinong tao, at kaya niyo iyan pag-usapan.

OPEN COMMUNICATION is the key to a happy and lasting relationship. Dapat marunong kayong mag-communicate ng feelings niyo sa isa’t isa through words, bakit ka galit, bakit ka nainis, bakit ka masaya, bakit ka in love, mga bagay na sobrang importante.

Kasi sa relationship natin, bihira tayong magkita, kaya kahit na gusto mo na lang sana ay yakapin ka niya para hindi ka na galit, e hindi naman niya iyon magagawa diba? Wish niya lang hahaha… Pinagseseparate kayo ng malayong distansiya e… and since LDR tayo, tandaan mo ‘to, 97percent of Communication is NON-VERBAL. May 3percent lang tayong kailangang gamitin sa tamang paraan para healthy ang relationship natin.. Kasi, iyong part na NON-VERBAL, hindi mo naman iyon magagawa di ba? hehehe so make the most out of the 3percent na natitira which is iyong VERBAL part.

REMEMBER: Bago ka magsalita, huminahon ka muna. Iyan ang totoong Military Girlfriend/Military Wife, laging kalmado iyan.

This is it for tonight, I hope marami kang napulot na lesson sa aking post na ito, paki-tag mo iyong love of your life para ma-open iyong mind niya na meron siyang mga expectations na kailangang i-meet para ikaw laging masaya, haha because remember, Happy Wife (or GF), Happy Life! Lol Para ‘di siya miserable ‘pag inaway-away mo. lol

“Baby, just because we have arguments doesn’t mean I’m going to break up with you. I love you.”

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5 Problems OFWs Hide From Their Family

“You will never understand untill it happens to you.”

5 Problems OFWs Hide From Their Family

#1 Kinakapos Sa Budget

Sa totoo lang, nahihiya tayong mga OFW na sabihin sa mga ka-pamilya natin na wala na talagang matitira sa atin kapag pinadala natin iyong hinihingi nila this month na dagdag sa naibigay na natin, pero since malakas sila sa atin, wala naman tayong magagawa kasi maski sila sa Pilipinas, mas malaki ang pangangailangan.

Nakakatawa nga e kasi minsan, pati sa pagkain, nagtitipid na rin tayo para lang umabot iyong natitirang pera natin para susunod na sweldo. Smile dyan ang mga nakakarelate hehe…  nakak-relate ka ba? Apir tayo, hindi ka nag-iisa my friend.

Read More: OFW Story: Things We Miss From “Pinas”

#2 Walang Savings

Halos lahat ng kakilala kong dating OFW, at mga kasama kong Filipinos dito, ay walang savings, gaya ko. Hehe Imagine naman kasi, anong itatabi namin para sa savings? E kaliwa’t kanan ang binabayarang loans, kahit utang ng kapamilya mo, ikaw pa rin ang nagbabayad. Ganito tayo e. Kaya tayo pumunta sa ibang bansa ay para matulungan ang family natin, kasi para sa atin, magiging maayos din ang buhay ng family natin, eventually, maiahon na rin natin sila sa hirap–iyan ang nasa isip natin kaya padala lang tayo ng padala.

 

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#3 May Utang Din Tayo Dito

Since kinakapos nga, hindi naman talaga maiiwasan na meron tayong magiging utang sa ibang Kababayan natin, dahil alangan namang tiisin mo iyong gutom mo? (May iba akong kakilala na ganito, at maski ako, nasubukan ko na iyan, lalo na nung mga unang taon ko sa abroad). Pero ang hirap lang isingit sa video call mo sa family mo na, “Bawasan ko muna iyong ibigay ko next month ha para makabayad ako sa nahiram ko sa katrabaho ko.” Ang hirap diba?

#4 Financial Support After Contract

Relate siguro iyong mga contract workers na OFW nating kababayan tulad ko na nag-aalala talaga tayo kung sino na ang magpo-provide sa family natin kapag natapos na ang contract natin. Siyempre, uuwi na tayo sa Pilipinas, hindi naman pwedeng mag-stay kasi tapos na nga ang contract diba? Smile na lang tayo. Unless meron pang chance mag-stay ka or mag-extend ka, pero ikaw, gusto mo pa bang mawalay ng mas matagal sa pamilya mo? hmmm…

#5 Hindi Lahat ng OFW Mayayaman

Natawa ako sa sinabi ng isang kapitbahay namin, dahil sabi niya sa Nanay ko, “bakit wala pa kayong magandang bahay? Iyong mga kakilala kong OFW na nasa JAPAN ang lalaki ng mga bahay nila at ang gagara pa ng mga kotse.”

Grabe hiyang-hiya naman talaga ako sa taong iyon hahaha. I-kumpara ba naman. Kung alam lang niya kung gaano kahirap ng buhay dito sa abroad at hindi ako money-making machine.

Uulitin ko lang, HINDI LAHAT NG OFW MAYAYAMAN. Hindi ko sinasabing, walang OFW ang umaasenso, pero sa una, mag-struggle talaga iyan, mangangapa paano ka didiskarte sa ibang bansa. Siguro iyong mga nakikita ng ibang tao na sobrang ganda ng buhay dahil may Abroad silang kamag-anak, siguro dahil iyon sa sobrang pagtitipid, at sobrang pagttyaga ng ilang taon para makapag-pundar ng ganon kalaking bahay o makabili ng magarang kotse. Sobrang saludo ako sa mga ganun Kababayan natin.

Pero para ikumpara naman ang bawat resulta ng isang kakilalang OFW sa iba, hindi naman siguro makatarungan iyon, kasi iba-ibang problema, pasakit at kwento ang nasa likod ng pag-alis natin sa Pilipinas.

FINAL THOUGHTS: Akala ng mga kamag-anak natin, ang ganda ganda ng buhay dito sa abroad. Akala nila nagpapakasarap tayo. Kaya naman minsan kung makahambing sila sa mga resulta ng ibang OFW na matagal na sa ibang bansa, sobrang wagas. Masakit lang na kapwa mo Filipino rin ang ganiyan sayo. Hindi nila alam, kasi hindi pa nila nararanasan.

Kung OFW ka, at binabasa mo ito ngayon, saludo ako sayo! Grabe. Iyong hirap at pagod sa araw-araw, iniindi natin para sa family natin, kahit inaapoy ng lagnat, pipiliting magtrabaho para matustusan ang pangangailangan nila sa Pilipinas. CONGRATULATIONS! Isa kang Bayani ng Pilipinas! 🙂 Basta tatandaan mo, lahat ng mga pangarap mo, matutupad mo iyan basta may kalakip na diskarte at pananalig sa Itaas! ~Hanggang sa muli!

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Cadet Dolls: Boon or Bane?

Tradition wears a snowy beard, Romance is always young.

There have been “rumors” about the Cadet Dolls even before we reach the technological advancements we are enjoying nowadays, kahit iyong kopong-kopong pa raw, ay naniniwala na ang mga Cadets and Kaydet Girls dito:

na… JINX daw ang magbigay ng Cadet Dolls sa mga Girlfriends kung Kadete ka… hmmm…

Again, ths was asked by our Reader, Miss G.

Dahil dito, nag-create tayo ng poll, and we ran it for 7 days.

Actually nagulat din ako sa kinalabasan ng poll, hehe…. I didn’t expect ganun na lang ang magiging reaction ng mga Readers natin, they’ve shared their own stories about the cadet doll issue. Again, thank you for participating everytime we do a poll, your thoughts and efforts are deeply appreciated!

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I’ve tried searching the internet if there is a story regarding this “jinx” stuff about the Cadet Dolls, pero wala talaga akong nahahanap, siguro kasi, sa Corps Mag natin ito mababasa sa mga past issues (OoopS! Before I forget, may articles pala ang PMG sa following issue ng Corps Mag ha, abangan niyo, and please, paki-picture and paki-tag niyo ang PMG if ever ha! Pakisabi kay Cadet thanks in advance! hihi)

So here is the picture of our POLL: CADET DOLL JINX OR NOT

With 33 Votes, 52% ang nagsabi na JINX iyon, kasama ang explanation nila kung bakit nga jinx iyon, some of our Readers, dahil hindi naging successful ang kanilang relationship with the Cadet, and some naman, were actually talking about their Husbands’ exes na nabigyan ng Cadet Doll.

48% naman sa ating readers ang nagsasabing, hindi ito jinx kasi nagkatuluyan sila ng kanilang mga Cadet.

Medyo close fight ano? hehe Personally, gusto kong sabihin na, wala naman talagang jinx or what, (first) depende talaga iyon sa relationship ninyo sa bawat isa, I mean kung paano niyo ba talaga i-handle iyong relationship, (second) kapag kayo talaga ang para sa isa’t isa, gagawa kayo ng paraan to stick together no matter what, kahit sandamakmak pa ng jinx na tradisyon ang sinasabi sa mga kwento.

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Para sa mga nagsasabing may jinx iyon, sa akin kasi, wala akong natanggap na Cadet Doll nung naging kami na. Binigyan niya lang ako nung magkaibigan pa lang kami… or nung nanliligaw pa lang siya sa akin, so safe diba? haha so hindi ko masasabing walang jinx or meron nga dahil nga hindi naman niya iyon binigay sa akin during the relationship.

Pero kidding aside, Ladies, remember this: karaniwan sa mga nagbi-break talaga, kahit hindi pa iyan Cadet, nakikipag-break sila kasi hindi na sila masaya, or hindi ka nila mahal (take it from me kasi na-try ko ring masaktan ng isang Kadete, ehem, if nagbabasa si Sancho nito, ewan ko lang, lol, pero totoo ito, nagkaroon din ako ng unsuccessful lovestory sa isang Cadet at hindi ito si Sancho, I will share this to you kapag natapos ko na iyong Ebook about breakup, entitled: “Ha? Break Na Tayo? Di Nga?!”).

Itong unsuccessful love story ko na ito, iyong guy, hindi niya ako binigyan ng Cadet Doll, hahaha pero tignan niyo, nag-break kami diba? Kasi, hindi kami para sa isa’t isa. Ganun lang talaga iyong dahilan nun.

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Alam ko kasi maraming Readers natin nagmemessage sa akin regarding how to cope with breakup, etc… I feel you, don’t worry, you’ll get by, you’ll be fine, I promise. Isipin mo ha, kung hindi kami nagbreak ng past love ko, edi wala akong Sancho ngayon diba? hehe for sure, mahahanap ka rin ng “Sancho” ng buhay mo, okay?

Para naman sa mga Readers natin na happily married, thank you po. Una sa lahat dahil kayo ang aming mga inspirasyon pagdating sa relationship. Kaming mga girlfriends pa lang ng mga Soldiers and Cadets, sobrang nagnanais din kami na magkaroon ng love story na happily ever after katulad po ninyo, at pinatunayan niyo lang po na after all these things, kayo pa rin naman ni Sir, and ganun din ang alam naming future kasi iyong path na dinaanan nio noon, iyon din iyong path na dinaraanan namin ngayon… Second thank you po kasi you are guiding us in one way or another to actually ease our lonesomeness while our Soldiers are away, kayo nga kinakaya niyo kasama na ang mga proud military kids niyo, paano pa kami? Dapat kayanin din namin diba? Again, thank you.

So Ladies (and Gentlemen),  this sums up the poll. Oo nanalo iyong JINX part pero hindi pa rin iyon ang dahilan kung bakit hindi kayo nagkatuluyan, or pwede rin naman nating i-put iyong blame sa tradition na iyan to ease your pain. Whatever you decide to do, after all, kwento mo ito, and your love story has just begun. Huwag na huwag mong hahayaan na titigil iyong mga matatamis mong ngiti dahil lang sa isang frog, okay? Hehe Tama na… love ka naman namin dito sa PMG. Kaya ok lang iyan ha. <3

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“I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach.”

PMG’s Be Your Own Boss Campaign

Here in PMG, we continue to provide value to our readers, so let me present to you, PMG’s Be Your Own Boss Campaign.

What is PMG Be Your Own Boss Campaign?

This is a campaign which teaches individuals to start their online business venture in order for them to provide extra income while using their mobile/laptop from the comfort of their own homes.

WHY ONLINE? As we know, Military families start with the Military Wives rear their children while their Soldiers are away for deployment, this leads us, Ladies from the “Silent Ranks” to actually give up our own career to tend to our growing children’s needs.

However, we can’t keep the fact that we need “extra” income because we cannot rely solely on our Soldier Husbands to totally provide for us when it comes to financial matters. Idagdag mo rin ang travel expenses brought by our LDR status, and more. Thus, we need to think of other sources of income, to at least ease the financial dent caused by our growing expenses.

ONLINE kasi we cannot afford to go outside our homes kasinagpapalaki pa tayo ng bata, or kunghindi man, busy rin sa daytime job. Para kahitnanasabahay lang, kikita ka rin kahitpakonti-konti with the help of this automated system that we will discuss during our free training (don’t worry, everything is done online).

If you want to learn more about this CAMPAIGN, click the link below for more details.

***When you click the link, you will be navigated to KIM SANCHO’S REAL FB PAGE. Yes, everyone, there’s a human being behind PMG and please, don’t keep your hopes high, babaan lang ang standards, hindiakosi Miss Universe, hehe simpleng tao lang din who has a “different” world aside from being a Military Girlfriend.

Build Your Own Empire. Be Your Own Boss.

click this link to get started:

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BENEFITS:

  • FREE EBOOK
  • FREE VIDEO TRAINING SERIES
  • FREE LIFETIME COACHING (by yours truly and my virtual mentors)
  • Create your very own online business with an automated system that lets you earn while you sleep–literally!

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Actually, wala talaga akong balak mag-pitch dito sa PMG kasi this is my baby. Hehe. Pero a lot of you are asking and curious about it, and they really want to be enlightened about what I’ve been doing.

So here it is…

My other interest aside from blogging is digital marketing (online business if you may), and I think I’ve been keeping this to myself for so long, na you could earn using the internet. hehe Ladies and gentlemen, this is not shameless promotion. You know me, and a part of my life, nabigay ko na sa inyo. This time, this year, I want to share everything I know and I have a mission to help other military wives and girlfriends make use of their spare time for productivity and later on apply these things to eventually make a profit out of it. This is me, personally inviting you to come and see a bigger picture, that after all, may magagawa ka pa. Ayokong maging selfish given that marami na talaga kayong nagtatanong, so I will dedicate my time to you, kayo naman ngayon. 🙂

If you are home-based mom, a student, or an employee, or an OFW like me, and you believe that you want to be financially adequate pa, para mas ma-secure ang future niyo, this is your time to take action. I’ve been looking for ladies to share this good news with, and this year, I will dedicate my time to help others, too, to eventually gain something from their “after-work” time. Hindi lang laging tele-novela, or movie marathon. We are military warriors, and we are the ladies from the “road less traveled.” Sabi nga nila, success happens with what you make out of after your “work.” Iyong tipong 6pm uuwi ka na from work and matutulog ka ng 12midnight, what will you do during those 6 hours? As a matter of fact, guilty as charged, ako, nanonood lang ako ng mga Series dati, pero I’ve come to realize, I should be doing something else, matutong magkaroon ng income-earning deeds and maging matalino sa pera, all these activities I do to secure my future family with my Military Husband (soon!).

This is PMG’s Be Your Own Boss Campaign

If you want to become a part of the squad, and makikilala mo na kung sino si Kim Sancho, I will give you full acess! Haha Pero keep it down, hindi ako si Miss Universe, isa lang akong ordinaryong tao tulad mo, naghahangad ng magandang buhay at masayang love life with  my Soldier. Hihihi

I am giving FREE EBook and FREE Online Video Training Series to those who want to be a part of my Campaign, and we will work hand in hand para makuha mo rin ang pinapangarap mo, whatever it is. Hehe I am willing to be by your side every step of the way, and you will have full access to my free training sessions, if you are curious, click this WORK WITH KIM SANCHO

What to expect if you decide today to be part of this journey? I will give you the best learning experience na ma i-seshare ko sayo; ito ang ilan sa mga yun;

Earning Passive Extra Income using the Internet, Mobile & Facebook (Option of other sources of Income)

Guidance and Tips on Money Managing

Personal Finance Tips

Improving our daily lives as your personal coach

And more!

Imagine life without struggles sa pera? Tapos gusto mo siyang puntahan, mapupuntahan mo siya kasama si bagets di ba? That you wouldn’t have to work as an employee kasi meron ka namang extra income you are earning from what you only do at home. So I’ve shared what I know, it’s time for you to take action.

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So that’s it for tonight. I hope na-inspire kita. Kita-kits sa next PMG post! 🙂

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6 Challenges Military Wives Experience

Hello again! This time, we will talk about challenges that Military Wives experience. So after ng Cadetship niya, siyempre ma-deploy na sila, and later on, magiging mag-asawa na rin kayo, susulong na rin kayo sa buhay pag-aasawa.

Medyo tough ang topic na ito, so brace yourselves. Hehe

For sure, marami ring readers ng PMG na mga military wives. Question: Mahirap po bang maging Asawa ng Sundalo?

Medyo hindi ako makasagot ng tama sa tanong ng reader natin na iyan, kasi personally, hindi pa kami kinakasal hehehe. Hindi pa ako formally “Military Wife” so if you are reading this, and kung military wife po kayo, please enlighten us.

But first, here are the things na natanong ko sa mga girl friends kong married sa mga sundalo… and if you are a Military girlfriend tulad ko, malamang magandang tip na malaman na natin ‘to ngayon pa lang.

#1 LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

When you’re living in another state or country, though, you cannot share these activities with the person you love. You can’t gaze into one another’s eyes and enjoy the pleasures of physical contact, or even share the simple joy of one another’s presence. And depending on the situation, you may not know if or when you’ll be able to see each other again. (from keepinspiringme.com)

A lot of us, especially iyong mga OFW katulad ko, nahihirapan sa communication lalo na kapag walang internet sa bundok o sa field. Sobrang nag-struggle ako sa pagka-miss ko sa kaniya nung bagong salta lang ako sa ibang bansa. Pero isipin mo, hindi na lang ikaw girlfriend, kundi ASAWA ka na niya. Your life and his life ay iisa na. Imagine mo iyan, mapapahiwalay kayo sa isa’t isa kasi nga siyempre sa duty, at sa deployment niya, karaniwan, sobrang layo pa ng assignment niya.

Mahirap minsan tumayo sa isang relationship na pakiramdam mo nag-iisa ka lang. Hehe alam ko iyong ganitong feeling kasi napagdaananan ko na ito noon, hindi ka sigurado kung kayo pa ba, kasi sa tagal na niya sa operation, halos mag-3months noon nung hindi siya nakapag-message sa akin, hindi ko talaga alam kung kami pa ba. Ang hirap lang.

Tapos, ang daming challenges sa buhay mo, tapos wala siya. Parang ang hirap magpakatatag minsan para sa sarili mo, pero ok lang iyon ha, kasi gustung-gusto naman talaga nilang umuwi, hindi lang talaga pwede o agad-agad.

#2 TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS

Siyempre, a big part of building your own family is having kids. Kadalasan, kasama mo ang asawa mo magpalaki ng mga anak niyo, lalo na iyong first time Mom, sabi ng isang friend ko, nahihirapan daw siya kasi sa kaniya lahat ng puyat and all.. Tapos hindi niya alam kung paano o ano ang gagawin kung magkakasakit ang anak, dahil nag-iisa lang siya. Maswerte na rin tayo kung nasa poder pa tayo ng mga magulang natin, o malapit lang sila, so that they too, can take part in rearing your kids. Para hindi sayo lahat ang work.

Iba na rin kasi talaga kapag may mga anak ng pinag-uusapan.. Sa palagay ko, medyo upgraded iyong challenges. Pasensiya na hindi ako makakapag-explain adequately sa bagay na ito kasi hindi ko pa naeexperience, hayaan niyo kapag may anak na ako, sasabihin ko sa inyo… hehe

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#3 BUDGETING and FINANCIAL MATTERS

Yes, admit it or not, kahit good-paying job ang pagiging isang sundalo, at dahil nga meron ka pang pinapalaking baby, hindi ka pa rin magkakaroon ng chance bumalik sa employment so dedepende ka pa rin sa sahod ni Mister. Mahirap iyong reality na ito kasi minsan hindi napapag-usapan, kasi ang sakit sa bangs bes. Haha Ang sakit pag-usapan iyong mga financial matters, iyong mga bagay na dapat talagang pinag-uusapan, hindi na napag-uusapan, iyong mga bagay na dapat ay DISCUSSION lang, nauuwi sa ARGUMENTS, hanggang sa may lilipad na na mga pinggan diyan lol. Pero joke lang po iyong pinggan, hahaha.

Pero sounds about right diba? Kasi iyan din ang sabi ng mga napagtanungan ko, lalo na iyong mga nagsisimula pa lang na military family.

#4 TRAVEL EXPENSES

Bes, ang sakit sa bangs ng abrupt buying of plane tickets, hehe kasi kailangan mo siyang puntahan. Na-try niyo na ba ‘to? Ang gastos ‘di ba? At nakaka-iyak kasi ang mahal ng days-before-your flight plane ticket. Pero walang magagawa kasi nga, ganito ang buhay ng military. Kung kelan ka niya kailangan, puntahan mo siya. Tungkulin mo iyon bilang military wife. Ikaw ang mag-aadjust para sa kaniya.

“ Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.”– Thomas Fuller

Ito ang dahilan kung bakit kailangan nating magkita. Hehe Kahit masakit pa iyan sa bangs, we have to see each other, kahit gaano pa kalayo ang lalakbayin ko, basta makita lang kita. Ganito kasi dapat ang love, may halong sacrifice.

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#5 UNMET EMOTIONAL NEEDS

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. -Lauren K. Hamilton

Alam niyo minsan iyong feeling na, kapag mag-memessage ka tapos “seen” lang niya, and kahit alam mo namang busy naman talaga siya sa trabaho or duty, siyempre masasaktan ka rin… Getting real na tayo dito, hindi na ‘to pa-tweetums ha, hehe. Siyempre may mga times na gusto natin na suyuin tayo o damayan nila tayo sa bad day natin, tapos SEEN ka lang, parang sinasabi niya e, “SORRY I’M EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE RIGHT NOW.” Di ba parang ang hirap? Pero kapag naramdaman niyo iyan, i-message niyo na lang ako. Hehe Kasi minsan talaga napagdadaanan natin iyan e.

May mga bagay na na-de-deprive ang mag-asawang military, iyong time nila para sa isa’t isa esp kapag meron talagang mabigat na pinagdadaanan, tapos wala iyong asawa mo na sasandalan mo. Siyempre, mahihirapan ka talaga. Sabi nga ng isang friend ko, dapat tatagan ko iyong loob ko dahil Military na ang buhay ko lalo na kapag nag-asawa na.

Remember: Military ang napili mong makakasama habang-buhay. Tapangan mo ang sarili mo. Kasi, sayo siya kukkuha ng strength.

#6 FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN

“You don’t just have to die for the people you love, you have to live for them, too.”

Ito na iyong isa sa pinakamasakit tanggapin, iyong takot na mawawala siya anytime. Iniisip ko pa lang, nasasaktan na ako. hehe Pero siyempre hindi natin iyan iniisip na mangyayari, kasi hindi talaga natin alam ano na ang mangyayari sa atin, pero it’s part of what we’ve actually signed up for.

Masakit tanggapin na hindi mo alam kung ano kakahinatnan ng operation nila, kung ano ang haharapin mo kinabukasan, na kapag may tumawag sayo na unknown number, hindi mo gustong iyon na iyong tawag sayo.

Pero kahit merong possibility na ganiyan, e kumapit pa rin tayo sa Itaas. Huwag magpapaapekto, lagi lang tayong mananalangin. Ang Dios na ang bahala sa atin.

Pero, lagi mo ring sasabihin sa kaniya, na hindi lahat ng Heroes nasa Libingan ng mga Bayani, kundi (at lalung-lalo na), iyong mga Sundalong nakakauwi sa kanilang mga pamilya pagkatapos ng lahat ng unos sa field.

And remember… Gustung-gusto na rin nilang umuwi. Imagine mo itong Poem na ito, palagay ko, sobrang ganito ang feeling ng mga Soldiers, na they want to spend the “morning” with their loved ones, too.

Will There Really Be A Morning

Will there really be a morning?

Is there such thing as day?

Could I see it from the mountains?

If I were as tall as they?

Has it feet like water lilies?

Has it feathers like a bird?

Is it brought from the famous countries

of which I have never heard?

Oh, some scholar! Oh, some sailor!

Oh, some wise man from the skies!

Please to tell a little pilgrim

Where the place called morning lies!

poem by Emily Dickinson

Above photo from Wyatt Castaneda from pexels.com

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The Hardest Part Of Being An OFW

Ok, Ok, I know this will be my 3rd post about being an OFW. I know right, it might be very overrated, but actually, a lot of our Kababayans do not know the “mysteries” there are which we unfold every single day away from our family.

Among all the other individuals who luckily spotted a good-paying job in the Philippines even right after they’ve received their diplomas,  we, on the other hand, chose to follow a different path.

We actually don’t know why we led this way. First of all, we are clueless on what will happen to us, or what adversities we are going to encounter, but still, call it brave heart, because I don’t know what else to call it, but we really are hard-as-nails, unyielding kind of people.

 

To be honest with you, there are a lot of things which we face that would actually make us bend our knees and beg for mercy. Among these things is this:

GETTING SICK. Iyong may sakit ka pero walang mag-aalaga sa’yo. Sorry, but you might find this childish, and I was prompted to write this because as of the moment, I am sick, and yesterday I filed for sick leave for a day to recuperate. Hindi naman malalang sakit, pero, inuubo, may malalang sipon, masakit ang buong katawan, masama ang pakiramdam, ang sakit ng ulo, at halos hindi makapag-salita ng maayos dahil sa sakit ng lalamunan. Isama mo pa iyong sakit ng likod sa kaka-trabaho.

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The hardest part of getting sick while you are away from your family is that no one else will take care of you. If you need medicine, you can’t rely on someone to buy you from the nearest drug store; neither can you ask someone to cook you Arrozcaldo o Lugaw because you are so-much-head-over-hills craving na mainitan ang sikmura mo before you’d lie down on your bed, and no matter how you want to relax or focus your energy to getting/feeling better, you have a gabundok na labahin to attend to, or some house chores to do.

I’m not here writing to rant, but actually, I am seeking for understanding and a little bit of attention. In behalf of my flock, the sometimes-forgotten OFWs, please understand that we are not money-making machines. We are not a wish list or a robot which you can easily dictate on what to do or what to buy you on your next birthday, or how much you’d want your allowance to be next month. Please understand that, no matter how much we want to give you a better life, we are all but humans, with limitations; and of course, feelings-that sometimes we want you to send us a message, kumustahin niyo man lang kami.

Hindi masarap ang buhay dito sa abroad. Hindi kami dito nagpapakasarap o nagbabakasyon, akala niyo lang iyon. All we want is a ticket back home, na kung pwede lang sanang hilingin, we would choose to live a simple life sa probinsiya at hindi na maghahangad ng mga luho or anything that would make our backs bend over backward just to afford it.

Read More: OFW Story: Things We Miss From “Pinas”

If you are reading this, and you are a FAMILY of an OFW, I have just one favor to ask: Please message your loved ones abroad, ask them how they are, ask them to take care of themselves, and do your best so that later on, you will not completely rely on what they are sending you, and sometime soon, you will already ask them to come home, to be with you.

If you are an OFW like me, hang in there Kababayan! Believe in yourself, that no matter how hard your situation is, no matter how tough your Boss is, and no matter how your body aches for a vacation, believe that as long as you hold on to your faith, and as long as you have a goal to reach, KAPIT LANG. Kaya natin ‘to, ok? Huwag sumuko, pero kung hindi mo na talaga kaya, hanap ng ibang options, hindi pwedeng panghabang buhay na tayong naghahanap ng pera at naninilbihan sa ibang lahi, just to provide for our family. Pero hangga’t kaya pa, huwag sumuko. Kaya natin ‘to.

Read More: 5 Problems OFWs Hide Their Families

 

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Is It Worth It To Leave My Cadet To Work Abroad?


Howdy, Guys! I’m here again. The question above was asked by our Reader, let’s just call her Miss K. You know what, pagkabasa ko pa lang sa tanong niya, I cringed a little bit. Why? Kasi ito iyong sitwasyon ko 3-4 years ago.

So before I’ll answer the question of Miss K, I just like to share with you my own story.

Year 2011 I graduated from Saint Louis University, sa may Baguio, luckily I passed the Nurses’ Licensure Exam right after I graduated. I was 20 years old back then, while Sancho was a 2nd Class Cadet(same age LOL).

At first, I told myself, hindi ko ‘to pwedeng iwanan during his Cadetship Years sabi ko sa sarili ko, kasi masiyado pa siyang “fragile,” LOL, este ako pala, este pareho pala kaming fragile that time.

Siya, kahit sabihin mong matigas ang katawan niya dahil sa training and all, kahit na sabihin mong nagdaan na siya sa Plebehood and Scout Ranger Training, haha, alam ko deep inside natatakot din siya what he is about to see and experience when he graduates, kasi Volunteer Army siya. Isa pa, bunso iyon, sobrang mahal na mahal siya ng parents niya, siblings niya, and mga relatives niya na parang lahat na lang gagawing madali para sakaniya, ganoon siya ka-baby sa family niya. Totoo ‘to, walang halong biro.

Nakita ko rin kung gaano siya ka-stress sa requirements, na minsan kahit na priv niya, imbes magsine kami or date-date e nasa bahay na lang kami, gumagawa ng mga project niya. (Nakaka-relate ba kayo, Ladies? Cadets?)

So sabi ko, hindi ko pa siya kayang iwan, kasi mamimiss ko lahat ng magagandang bagay at mga challenging na situations na pagdadaanan niya pa sa loob ng Academy, mamimiss ko iyong milestone niya sa career niya. At alam kong kahit kakayanin niya mag-isa, alam ko mas kailangan niya ako sa tabi niya.

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So iyon, wala akong na-miss na event sa buong Cadetship niya.. Maiden Performance ng Silent Drill, lahat ng Hop (except Barn Hop kasi nasa Probinsya ako ‘nun) and lahat ng mga Intrams andun ako. Sobrang swerte ko lang sa mga magulang ko kasi supportive sila sa amin, since fresh grad ako gusto nila magpahinga muna ako, at never nila ako sinabihan na maghanap na ng trabaho)

So heto na, dumating na iyong time na grumaduate na siya sa Acad. May bakasyon sya ‘nun I think, pero siyempre he has to spend it with his family, nakakahiya rin naman sabi ko sa sarili ko na andun ako palagi, e hindi pa naman niya ako asawa hahaha. (I have to explain this later, kasi marami siguro ang makaka-relate sainyo dito na during his R&R, he has to be with his family, and siyempre hindi ka pa naman niya asawa so 3rd priority ka lang, 1st duty, 2nd-family niya).

So I gave him space… Maximize muna sa family niya, and nagkita na lang kami the day before his flight to Mindanao, hatid namin siya ng Ate at Kuya niya. Take note, he is from Luzon, and he is Army, so Mindanao talaga siya ma-assign.

Guys, this was the hardest moment of our entire relationship. Iyong pag-alis niya. Iyong pag-iwan niya sa akin. Pakiramdam ko naabandona ako na hindi na niya ako kailangan kaya niy ako iniwan. Ito talaga iyong sobrang sakit na nangyari sa buong buhay ko. Haha That time, we were 22 years old. Isama mo pa iyong 3 months niya sa field, tapos 2-3 times lang siyang naka-message sa akin during his first 3 months in his first assignment.

I was taken a back. Napabayaan ko na nga career ko, iniwan pa ako ng love of my life.

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I wasn’t sure what to do next. I’ve given up my time to be with him, my batch mates already had their 1-2 years of hospital experience, others were about to finish their graduate school, and some had left to work abroad.

I had no choice, I should  continue to live my life–this time, without him. 

First off, hindi ko naman alam kailan siya babalik. Infantry siya, so wala talagang kasiguraduhan kailan siya makakauwi.

So I’ve decided to move on.

Sorry Miss K, napahaba iyong kwento ko. To cut it short, nag-decide ako na umalis, na wala siyang kaalam-alam. Nag-apply apply na ako kung saan-saan para ako rin maka-move on na, since siya, Lieutenant na siya, meron na siyang career, ayokong maging anino na lang niya, sorry Ladies, pero ganun talaga ang naramdaman ko noon… I have to use my wits na to find my own career path… I have to move on, parang siya rin. Naka-move on na siya. Gone are his Cadet Years… At na-stuck talaga ako doon. HINDI NA SIYA KADETE.

When he got his chance to message me (kasi nga laging walang signal during operation), I was actually already packing my things to get ready for my upcoming flight. He was actually shocked. I told him I needed this.

Hindi naman kami naghiwalay hahaha. Pero, he didn’t stand between me and my dreams. He actually supported me. So to cut the story short, nandito na ako. 3 years na rin pala ako dito. Gosh! hahaha

So to Miss K, I know you are stuck between your dreams and his. Your dream is to find yourself abroad, while his is to be with you during his cadet  years. First of all, I want to tell you that life abroad is difficult, nahirapan ako, lagi ko siyang inaaway kasi namimiss ko na siya. Walang kwentang pag-aaway lahat ng pinagdaanan namin noon ang dahilan lang kasi namimiss namin ang isa’t isa. Pero it didn’t stop us from loving each other.

If you agreed, siguro ok na rin yun, I think bata pa kayo, you should be prioritising on giving yourselves a chance to find your own niche or career path. You have to complete your individuality, and later on, if you succeeded sa inyong sari-sariling goals in life, you have each other to celebrate your success with, right?

Kung isang concern mo kung anong haharapin mo doon, you’ll never know unless you try sabi nga nila. Pero you are a tough woman, I know you can survive anything, basta kapit lang tayo sa Itaas; at siyempre, hanggat may internet, sinasabi ko sayo, makaka-survive ka. 🙂

Your distance will also try to test your commitment to each other. It will sway you, give you a million reasons to give up, and it will slap your face like a b*tch over and over again. Hehe Mahirap talaga, pero imagine you will be surpassing these challenges, magiging matibay talaga kayo. That no matter what life gives you, sa isa’t isa lang kayo kakapit.

Mag-usap kayo, I think you know already what to do, although you aren’t that 100% sure if it is worth it. But I tell you, lahat ng bagay may kapalit. You have to sacrifice some things in order for you to get what you want, if you think it’s ok to leave him right now, and go home later when he graduates para mas madalas mo siyang makakasama, go ahead. Basta dapat, may iisa kayong anchor, para kahit gaano  na kalalim iyong mga pagdadaanan niyo, sa isa’t isa pa rin kayo babalik.

So this is it for now, ladies and gentlemen… Lumalala na yata ang CTS ko hahaha addict lang e no.

All the best,

Kim Sancho

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