“Oh Dear, I think you’ve stolen my heart, but that’s okay, you can keep it.”
Ladies, if you are having difficulty deciding whom to choose from all your suitors, well, here are a few signs which might help you decide. ❤
1. He doesn’t only LOVE you, but he RESPECTS you
Love is always there, but respect is not. Remember that girls want attention, that’s why they end up with “boys,” but “women” want respect so they end up with “gentlemen.” Respect isn’t asked for, but is earned. Before you even start your relationship, and you want this future endeavour to last, you must show him that you respect yourself first, so he knows you are not just among those girls who come and go.
GUYS, it’s simple. Treat your girl how you would want your dad to treat your Mom, your future brother-in-law to treat your sister; and your future son-in-law to treat your daughter.
2. He values his and your parents; and his family means the world to him
If you want someone to last forever in your life, make sure you choose someone who respects and loves his own parents. You know that when he does, it means family is important to him, and chances are, he also dreams of having his own, simple, yet blissful family. You know that if he also respects your parents, it means he doesn’t want to do anything stupid to you, because he knows exactly what he will end up to, if he will.
A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone. Billy Graham
3. He has his own dreams for his future, and for your future together
Don’t get me caught up when I say “his future,” what I mean is his own thoughts for his own career. It’s important that you choose someone who has his own dreams and aspiration for himself, not only those things you set for him or you told him to do, but even before you’ve even met, he has these goals keeping him motivated every day. Aside from that, of course, he plans ahead for your future together, and not only does he plan, he materialises it.
4. His FAITH is his LAMP that guides him along the way
Some may say this is whimsical, but actually, nowadays, you only find good guys inside the Church or someone who BELIEVES. So choose someone who has faith which helps him carry on every time the going gets tough.
They do not fear bad news. They confidently trust the Lord to care for them. Psalm 112:7,NLT
5. He is a good provider and money matters don’t shake him
Of course, not all the time you meet someone who owns a kingdom and doesn’t have to work for the rest of his life. If you happen to meet someone like that, you’re lucky. But you’re luckier, or even blessed, if you found someone who doesn’t get distressed with matters concerning to money, because he works hard for it to secure your future together. Hence, you know for sure he will be a good provider in the future. A guy who courts you because he’s the only one among his flock who doesn’t have a girlfriend yet, is not deserving of your time and attention. But a gentleman who courts you with good intentions, and is already prepared for the rainy days, is worthy of your time.
6. He knows how to protect you
Not only physically, but from future potential problems he discerns would happen from your bad decision making. He knows you are a wise woman, but when he sees that your judgment is kind of curvy, he will be honest enough to tell you, because he believes that your failures are his own, too. So he protects you from future danger.
You better treat her like your queen if you want to be treated like a king. Moosa Rahat
7. His social group respects him but he knows the meaning of SOCIAL DISTANCE
He is a person of integrity, and his friends and workmates respect him, because he knows how to deal with people professionally. Although he is close to other women, or other groups of people you haven’t even met yet, you trust him because he knows his boundaries, and you know that he will not cross the line.
8. He believes in delayed gratification
Choose someone who doesn’t give in with simple or temporary pleasures because he believes in delayed gratification. He knows that all things which are worth-giving effort for are the ones which could last forever. So he knows how to wait, because after all, he already knows what he wants. If someone knows how to how to delay his gratification, he also knows how to control his temper.
The longer you wait for something, the more you’ll appreciate it when you get it. Cause anything worth having, is definitely worth waiting.
9. You can tell by the look of his eyes that you are the apple of his eyes.
You know, because you know his heart. ❤
Fall in love with someone who doesn’t make you feel love is hard.
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