This is a response to our reader who wants to know if this certain Cadet is really serious about her
I’m not an advocate for busting someone or anything doing negative stuff just to prove a point, but this time, for the sake of our reader, I want to talk about this topic
I have a lot of thoughts about this, because, I know a lot of ladies who were brought to sudden heartbreak because the man they think were serious about them, were actually just fooling around.
I don’t intend to hurt someone, but these things are actually happening based on what my friends experienced (after interviewing some of my friends and acquaintances). If you know you have someone who loves you so much, please don’t read this. But then, if you have second thoughts about your Cadet, I hope this might help.
So here are the things you should note when you are having second thoughts:
1. He doesn’t message you regularly
Cadets do have a schedule when it’s okay to use the phone or not, they have their Schedule of Calls everyday, but during weekends, I think they have authorized time to use their phones.
First warning: If the Cadet doesn’t message you during weekends. Kunyari ‘di ka na niya minessage last week, sabihin mo nang may duty siya or something like that, then maghintay ka for next week, tapos ‘di na naman siya nag-message.
NOTE: Kung gusto ka niya talaga, kahit may duty pa iyan, magmemessage iyan sayo, gagamit ng ibang phone or magtitake life para sabihin na wag kang mag-alala kasi ok lang siya at busy lang talaga siya.
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2. He messages or calls you at the wee hours of sleep
This might sound sweet or something like that, pero isipin mo na lang, hindi ka minimessage during the weekends which is authorized na oras, tapos after TAPS (unauthorized na iyong paggamit ng phone), bigla na lang siyang tumatawag sa’yo? This will only mean one thing: Hindi nagrereply sa kaniya or hindi sinasagot tawag niya ng girl na gusto niya talaga. So second option, hanap ng ibang pwedeng makausap, mapalipas na lang iyong oras habang naghihintay kay girl. Gosh.
3. During general Priv outside PMA, he tells you he didn’t ask for priv because he has something to do
What would be that “something” ‘e kung Kadete ka, the only thing you look forward to is PRIV. Tanungin niyo sa mga Cadets na kilala niyo. Hehe Siyempre this is the only time na makaksama nila iyong love ones nila during Civis mode, o kaya sa labas ng PMA, why wouldn’t he ask for priv if pwede naman? Diba? Baka meron siyang ibang plans with other person.
4. He doesn’t invite you to occasions inside PMA
Part of being in love is showing the one you love your “natural habitat” LOL or your whereabouts, I mean kung saan ka nag-aaral, saan ka nagwowork, especially kapag merong okasyon, at pwede namang mag-invite ng bisita. Bakit aayawan niyang makasama ka kung gusto ka niya talaga?
Note: if mahal ka niyan talaga at baliw siya sa’yo, baka months or weeks before iyong events, nagsisave the date na siya sayo, para masiguradong available ka nun at makakapunta ka.
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5. He does invite you to occasions inside PMA pero ipapa-entertain ka sa iba
Sige sabihin na lang nating may duty siya, okay, understood iyon, pero bakit ka pa niya ipapa-entertain sa lower class or sa ibang classmate niya? Come to think of it, kapag gusto ka niyan talaga, bantay-sarado ka diyan. Hindi siya basta-basta mag-iintroduce ng lalaki na magiging kasama mo, unless of course, common friend niyo iyon, o kaya related sayo iyong other Cadet. Medyo nakakaiyak lang, pinapunta ka pa niya.
6. He doesn’t invite you to visit him inside “just because”
Siyempre, hindi ka na nga niya ininvite ‘pag may okasyon, do you think iinvite ka rin niya kahit walang rason? First, ayaw niyang maabala. Second, ayaw niya na makita siyang ng may kasamang ibang babae ng classmates niya, kasi, baka isumbong siya sa original girl, or the one he truly cares about.
7. Hindi ka niya ininvite sa HOP
Mas gugustuhin niyang magpaendorse kesa kasama ka. First, mawawala communication niyo, then, sasabihin niya busy siya, then,next part siya ng committee kaya hindi na lang daw niya i-prioritize na mag-invite. Girl, magtaka ka talaga. I know people na part ng hop committee, pero nandun pa rin ang mahal nila sa buhay to support them. If he is serious about you, he will not leave you behind feeling sorry for yourself kung bat hindi ka nakasama sa Hop, pero iyong ibang girl friends mo, present sila.
8. Hindi ka niya pinapakilala sa pamilya niya
Ang mga Kadete (please tell me if I am correct, sa mga Cadets na nakakabasa), kapag serious na sila sa babae, next step na ang pagpapakilala sa magulang. Wag ka nang magtanong kung pinakilala ka niya, serious ‘yan girl. Hehe Pero kapag “matagal” na kayo, nagdaan na ang mga okasyon sa PMA na pwedeng bumisita ang pamilya ng Kadete, tapos wala pa rin, sorry talaga, baka hindi iyan serious.
9. Class Crest
Hindi ko alam kung tama ito, pero para saakin, kung seryoso ang isang Kadete, hindi pa niya natatanggap iyong Class Crest niya na female counterpart, e matic na sayo mapupunta iyan. Huwag muna iyong mini ring, kasi sa Mama niya muna iyon. Hehe Pero iyong crest, I think dapat mapupunta sayo, unless hindi pa siya sigurado sayo.
FINAL THOUGHTS: There are a lot of things to know if someone doesn’t really like you, or is not serious about your relationship, first of all, once you’ve come to the point when you will already ask yourself, “Mahal ba talaga ako nito?” I think that’s the time you really have to know deeply. Kasi if someone loves you, you won’t ask yourself that question, because you know deep in your heart he is into you. Hindi ka mapapatanong, alam mo na lang.
But then again, BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. Lagi tayong magbigay ng ganiyan, kasi ang mga Kadete, busy talaga iyan sila sa activities and regimented life inside the Academy, and you really have to be understanding. These warning signs might not be applicable to others, and sana, sana la ng, hindi ako tama. Sana seryoso siya sayo. Good luck!
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